Finding out your boyfriend or future husband is gay will really devastate you or turn your world upside down.
In celebration of Pride Month, a worldwide event which honors the lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender community, the eight winners of 2019 Bb. Pilipinas pageant gave their answers to the hypothetical question: “On the eve of your wedding day, you found out your partner is gay. What will you do?”
Gazini Christiana Ganados, Miss Universe Philippines: “I will communicate with him properly because I would be his future wife. I deserve to know because that’s what love is all about, which is communicating with each other. I will respect his decision and I hope he will respect mine. Then everything else will follow.”
Lawyer Bea Patricia Magtanong, Bb. Pilipinas International: “I would be heartbroken. Mahal ko kasi siya. Pag mahal ko siya, sana mahalin din niya ako. I admire couples whose relationships transcend sexuality. Siguro kung wala na akong magawa pa, I’ll just let him go.”
Resham Saeed, Bb. Pilipinas Supranational: “I think my first reaction would be confusion because no matter what your gender is like if I get close to a person that I choose to marry, then that means they would know me well enough. However, I do not respect people who lie. But I would accept it and celebrate it.”
Emma Mary Tiglao, Bb. Pilipinas Intercontinental: “Bago ka magpakasal, dapat kilalanin mo na iyung tao. Kung mahal ko, I don’t care (if he is gay). As long as we love each other, then we’ll go for it.”
Samantha Ashley Lo, Bb. Pilipinas Grand International: “I would be upset because I’ve spent na a lot of money for that wedding. Sayang! If he’s not my husband, then he’s going to be my best friend. I want him to be happy.”
Leren Mae Bautista, Bb Pilipinas Globe: “Siguro I would still accept him and love him for who he is. I won’t be angry and I would just appreciate him. Basta I would accept him for who he is.”
Maria Andrea Abesamis, 1st runner-up: “It would really depend on how you love the person, how ready you are.”
Samantha Mae Bernardo, 2nd runner-up: “We need to settle things if he really wants me to be his wife or gagawin lang niya akong front. Whatever our decision is, whatever will work for us, then I will be fine with it.”
Respect for LGBT
More than 20 local government units (LGUs) have anti-discrimination ordinances that offer protection and encourage respect for the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) populations in the Philippines, according to Chi Laigo-Vallido, director for programs and advocacy of The Forum for Family Planning and Development.
In Luzon, these LGUs are Cavite province and the cities of Angeles, Antipolo, Baguio, Batangas, Candon, Dagupan, Mandaluyong, Puerto Princesa, Quezon and Vigan.
In the Visayas region, ordinances are being implemented in Iloilo province and the cities of Bacolod and Cebu.
In Mindanao, the same is done in the provinces of Agusan del Norte and Dinagat Island as well as the cities of Butuan and Davao.
A few more towns and barangays across the country have their own ordinances that seek to uphold the rights of LGBTs.
The Forum, an advocacy organization that works in communities to advance reproductive and sexual rights, lauded the local government initiatives in making conditions better for LGBTs.
Laigo-Vallido said the efforts of LGUs to implement ordinances that prevent and prohibit abuse, exploitation, bullying and acts that limit employment, education and other opportunities for LGBTs have set precedents for more political leaders to formulate similar laws.
But beyond the recognition of the June celebration of Pride Month and the fun parades in various parts of the country, Vallido says that it is time to step up for the welfare of LGBTs who have unique reproductive and health needs. “They must be equal before our laws and must be able to access opportunities and services among others just like any and all Filipinos.”